When two are no longer one....
What happens when, the personal problem we think we are fixing, blindsides and devastates us with even worse changes than we could imagine ?
This describes the outcome of divorce when we do not act wisely
Suddenly there are new social and cultural challenges as our life is filled with landmines of guilt, instability, shame, doubt and the list grows on….
Prior friendships, prior family, prior work status, prior strengths become weaknesses demanding we do the “right thing” in starting over, and do it NOW. We never planned for this.
While we plan for many things in life, what plan do you have concerning divorce?
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” James 1:5
Godly wisdom directs the wise and good choices we need to avoid a future destroyed by regrets and hopelessness . God knows and “declares the end from the beginning.” (Isaiah 46:10)
But what "wisdom" do we ask for ?
Instead of asking for wisdom “if we should divorce” , we need to know God’s will concerning divorce. Aligning with God’s will and Word helps us have His direction and blessing throughout this time.
By the time we realize we should have planned “to AVOID” divorce, we are caught up in the circumstances of it, but it is not too late with God.
We may feel all those years, all the hopes, our lives, and that all our family was, is now in ashes.
“… to give to them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning,…” Isaiah 61:3
So what is your reason?
- “Unreconcilable Differences”
- “I don’t love them anymore”
- “Our friends were happier when they divorced”
- “Just the 7 year itch”
- “Not what I expected”
- my reason/excuse is
Perhaps wiser is to read what concerns God
- Adultery in marriage (Matthew 5:31-32)
- Abuse; physical, emotional, mental, addition, cruelty (Malachi 2:16)
- Refusal to provide (1 Timothy 5:8)
- Responsibility in preferring the other (Ephesians 5:25-33)
- … and into the wisdom found in the Word of God…
This is only the start, seek counsel.
Hear advice, and receive instruction, so that you may be wise in your latter end.
There are many purposes in a man’s heart, but the counsel of God shall stand. (Proverbs 19:20-21)
You have invested in a commitment and covenant that will impact your and your family’s future. Seek first the Kingdom of God and let Him order your steps… before you make the wrong decision.
